BDSM. Ars erotica between pain and pleasure Nicoletta Landi Aim of this abstract is to analyze BDSM, acronym for Bondage, Domination (or Discipline), Sado-Masochism. That’s a group of practices which bind together physical pain and sexual pleasure. It is a specific way to intend eroticism and to experience bodies and sexualities and it is also part of a deeper personal and social identity construction and development. Identities are moving processes which come true through practices, also sexual ones. In this specific case, eroticism can be connected to pain or intense body stimulation during BDSM rituals. Generally, in contemporary society and its mainstream representations, pain and pleasure are antithetical. There are sexual researches and rituals which are deeply involved in pain experimentation, instead. A slap, during a negotiated sexual play, can be fundamental for a meaningful relation between subjectivities and it can also be part of the way a singular person gets in touch with the world within him/herself and the world of meanings and symbols the contest is made of. Playing BDSM is a form of personal and negotiated agency produced by an embodiment of representations and meanings which can be reconsidered and lived in a intimate human exchange. Pain doesn’t have to be overcome, it can be expressed through bodies which are object of choices and plural options. Pain can be understood, manageable and lived. Consensual sado-masochism plays with and calls into question the rational way to intend pain. Does it always have to be sedated when it is not necessary and useful? Can physical pain during a sex play be useful to understand the potential of personal and socialized agency? Whiplashes, hot wax dripping, bodies tied in uncomfortable but charming positions, are ways to embody specific contextual influences but also ways to produce meanings and to act on and through bodies living in the world. Keywords: sado-masochism, pain, pleasure, agency, embodiment, rituality, relationships, sexualities, anthropology, body. ***** Goal of this paper is to analyze BDSM, acronym for Bondage, Domination (or Discipline), Sado-Masochism. That’s a group of practices which bind together physical pain and sexual pleasure. It is a specific way to intend eroticism and to test bodies and sexualities, it is also part of a deeper personal and social identity construction and development. Sexuality is an interesting and complex topic because it is an important element of human identity and its construction dynamics. I focus my analysis on the experience of erotic body, having a dialogue with classical and more recent anthropological theories about embodiment, gender and sexualities. It has been important for me to spread my point of view to different humanistic disciplines to understand my object such as Psychology, to be able to understand the different ways to look at fieldworks and then to produce reality. BDSM can be considered as a ars erotica, 1 using a Michel Foucault’s definition, which exists as an embodied process of contextual information but also as a socialized and intentional practice. Erotizing pain can be a good topic to study how many the ways of living the body and sexual contacts can be. Every human being lives in a specific social contest that determinates behaviors, but every person has the chance to act on him/herself and the others in many different ways, more or less socially accepted. The acronym BDSM was defined in the United States during the 80s to define a number of sexual or teasing practices that associate hard body stimulations and lust. It is useful for those who play this kind of games to make a difference between sadomasochism as a sexual perversion and consensual BDSM playing that is always made among consciously involved players. Every BDSM session has to be SSC (Sane, Safe and Consensual) because it has to be grounded on reciprocal trust which is necessary to take part to this game. These ritual sessions reinforce relationships and are useful by the way of being part of personal identity going through. Ritualizing and playing with social roles, with power and daily situations helps to exorcise power gaps, death and violence. Letting these aspects of life be erotic and teasing can be a political critic against social expectations and also a creative, such as a Michel Foucault’s ars erotica concept describes, way to intend sex and relationships. Sex can be considered not only as a natural and naturalized matter as Michel Foucault affirms in his bio-political studies: sexuality is a knowledge form that can’t be objectified and it concerns individual and socio-political matters, it is about agency and transformation of representations and norms. What is expected to be, is lived and experienced in many different ways which are meaningful as agency and identity actions. Analyzing sexual pleasure connected to pain is part of a deep analysis of the fundamentals of individual and social identity constructions. Identities are fluid processes that flow across bodies which must be always and deeply analyzed by anthropological researches. Sexuality, such as other aspects of human life, is a variable characteristic which can be experimented also through physical pain. There are positive and negative coordinates that define what is right and what is wrong about human, even sexual, behavior. Sometimes, linking pain to pleasure is socially considered as a not natural or insane. Contemporary societies, in fact, consider these two subjects as antithetical. As this research wants to argue, there are performative and ritualized sexual forms that are deeply focused on seeking and living physical pain as an erotic matter. Denying of trying to reduce physical pain, which is very common in Western societies, is just a way to face this question. There are different agentive practices that express other attitudes to deal with pain, even connecting it to sexual pleasure. Individual and social agency has the chance and the power to adapt and change commonly shared points of view about what has the right to be considered natural or legitimate as an erotic behavior. Doing BDSM grounds on popular representations about love and the erotic but it also re-elaborates and plays with this imaginary. Even a slap, just like a caress, during a consensual sexual meeting can be expression of the relation between the Self and the Other, between the Self and the World. Listening to who plays BDSM, the experience of pain is essential. It is the most meaningful aspect of those who are interested in consensual sadomasochistic relationships. I use the simple word ‛pain’ to describe, making a linguistic but also a theoretical stretching, a huge number of practices that provoke the common sense of tolerable physical experimentation. Studying this challenge is useful to think about body sensing and its symbolic implications. Analyzing sexualities has to start from focusing on material culture and especially from the study of the body and the senses as the place where experience and knowledge converge. Playing with alternative sensory stimulation is connected with using specific dresscodes, clothes and textiles. Latex, for example, hides but also exhibits the body just like a second skin making the body become a erogenous surface and a place where it is possible and exciting to feel a particular stimulation of the senses. Also high heels shoes induce a particular physical but also symbolic intention. Willful design is necessary to create a dynamic and cooperative contact between the people who desire to play with their bodies during a BDSM ritual. A BDSM ritual is the moment where all the meanings and implications of this particular erotic intention emerge. Actions are embodied and codified according to the SSC contract. Everything happens during a BDSM session is negotiated and a ‛safe word’ can interrupt the play. Rituality is important to define identities through symbols and performative actions but it is also part of human expression of construction the self as the metaphoric and physical place where it gets in touch with the Others and the mystery of eroticism. Rituals are not simple and mechanical repetitions of codified practices, they are also culturally defined actions made by people emboding representations who play and performe them in a creative way. BDSM pain practices are very diversified, they are often connected to domination and power gap between those who are taking part to the play. The contact between a Master or a Mistress and a slave is very deep and elaborate, many of them define BDSM eroticism as different from ‛vanilla sex’ which is sex not including strong physical stimulation, role playing or power playing. Whiplashes, hot wax dripping, bodies tied in uncomfortable but charming positions, are ways to embody specific contextual influences but also ways to produce meanings and to act on and through bodies living in the world. Pain can be understood, manageable and lived. Consensual sado-masochism plays with and calls into question the rational way to intend pain. It doesn’t have to be overcome, it can be expressed through bodies which are object of choices and plural options. It can even have an erotic appeal. Many performative and ritual acts are connected to body modification such as body piercing where the bodies are symbolically and physically marked. During a BDSM session some bodies can be, provisionally or not, pierced or marked. It depends on what has been negotiated between those who take part to the play. In this sense, body arises as object of choices and options inside the process of privatization of it where individuals have an increasing chance to decide what to do to the bodies they are. This could be related to a transfer of rights from the public institutions to private ownership where body modification is not linked to mental illness or abuse. Pathologizing body modification or the connection between pain and pleasure is part of an implicit and naturalized compulsion that produces good or bad, right or wrong, bodies and ways to live them. In this way, creative agency is reduced to simple and reductive psychological impulse. Sadomasochism clashes often with the law about what can be considered as an abuse, a physical damage of about what is or what has to be the limit of such a sexual behavior. BDSMers, anyway, consider to be very important to decide each time what the limit of the play has to be also to pretend a kind of normality about the games the love to play. Law is often rigid and inflexible pretending sexualities to be natural, stable and completely the same for every subjectivity. It defines the pain measure that can be accepted and tolerated but it keeps out alternative ways to intend the appeal of pain. It is interesting to underline that many Governments accept torture but censure the private choice to link pain and sex. Eroticism has, in this interpretation, to be disconnected from hard physical stimulation which is considered, for this kind of situation, unjustified. Giving pain has to be functional to greater goals such as political or military ones such as in the torture’s case. BDSM plays with these social rules and contextual conditioning and its considered as not necessary violence is, on the other hand, fundamental for this sexual preference to exist. Penal codes ground on and perpetuate human behavior considered unchangeable and regulated by norms which define what is punishable and what is not. Starting from Michel Foucault’s studies about sexuality, the law is part of a bio-political control of societies and human bodies. It produces efficient (sexual) bodies that have to exist between a number of socially accepted rules that define their right to exist. Nowadays the debate around human sexual rights is very fertile and useful to discuss the relation between public institutions and what is considered to be a private space where individual agency is fundamental and where it can be different from what is considered to be natural and right. Thinking about universal human rights has to look into what is lived and performed as a personal, also concerning sexuality, choice and freedom. Pain has to be considered not only as something which has to be overcome or functionally quantifiable. It is also part of a greater and deeper human, sexual and relational, research. Common feeling about pain and suffering is different in time and space. Pain is not an abstract thought that can or has to be quantifiable, it is an intentional act where specific factors flow together and come true. Those factors are variable and many, they concern biological, juridical, political, historical, cultural concepts and points of view. Very often they are conflicting and contradictory ones. Rituals such as the sadomasochistic ones let these contradictions emerge by reinforcing but also playing with those norms that bio-political power is founded on. BDSMers embody these rules but they de-structure them in a performative way. Agency means not only to resist against norms in a dual dimension of repression and resistance. It is a creative way to inhabit bodies and play with norms, socio-political influences and naturalized opinions about sexuality and relationships. Pain, for those who play BDSM such as for ascetics, is not only action but it is passion. Suffering becomes manageable although pain destroys customs concerning language because it is considered to break inter-subjective communication. Erotizing pain is a creative and transforming process giving new sense to reality and human connections. It is a metaphysical path that biology or psychology simply reduce to something needing to be sedated or cancelled. Those who are interested in consensual sado-masochism claim the chance to construct their subjectivities also through shocking practices and pain-focused rituals. Playing with two antithetical subjects and feelings such as pain and pleasure means to play and to overcome this dichotomy. Human sexuality includes unlimited shades, experimenting hard body stimulations or alternative way of teasing is part of a large number of agency acts. Agency is that bridge that connects embodied subjectivities and social representations. It overcomes the supposed opposition between what is right and what is wrong, what is a natural impulse and what is insane. Putting together suffering and sex means to summarize this opposition, to embody it and to play with it. Endorphins, even in what BDSMers say, are important because they explain, in a biological socially accepted point of view, the contact between pain and excitement. Some other explanations are useful to normalize this behavior such as remembering ascetic, even catholic, physical punishments. Doing BDSM is, in fact, a embodied practice but also a metaphysical process to reach a deep knowledge concerning corporeality, sexuality and relationship among different subjectivities living in peculiarly influenced and influencing contexts. Intimacy is transformed into a pure relationship where pleasure can be experimented through conscious practices and connections, even testing physical pain. Pain can be understood, manageable and lived. Consensual sado-masochism plays with and calls into question the rational way to intend pain. This flexible vision of embodied and creative sexuality is expression of the infinite mystery of human eroticism. 1 ‛La volontà di sapere’Feltrinelli Milano 2004 Bibliography AA.VV. ‛Il feticismo della seconda pelle. Antologia di Skin Two’ Shake Milano 1998 G. Agamben ‛Homo sacer. 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